This is a well-known book, which you have probably heard of if you are familiar with self-help books. This is the first time I thought I was reading a thriller book instead of a self-help book because it’s full of suspense.
I dare you gonna stick with it from the first chapter; that’s how excited I was about finishing it. But guess what? I didn’t read that book before even though it’s so popular.
I just finished it, and let me tell you this is the best self-help book, like seriously it just changed my mind completely.
And it only took me 4 days to finish. What’s incredible about this book is that it pushes you to take action.; after finishing it, I feel like it would be a disgrace if I didn’t do anything.
The main goal of this book: is to focus on an important goal.
- Don’t run one person to another; instead, commit to one relationship.
- Go for calm instead of temporary excitement, and you can only get peace by giving one person your whole attention in a single relationship.
I really enjoyed these two lessons. Indeed, there is one more thing to add: don’t completely trust yourself, despite what many books will tell you to do.
This book says it’s more important not to trust fully because, if we fully trust our beliefs, we prevent ourselves from taking advantage of opportunities. If we believe that we will never succeed in class or that we aren’t good enough at something, we will never grow, so try new things, and ask for help, after that only you will realize your full potential.
Avoid forming unreasonable assumptions; things haven’t happened yet.
Even if you’re not good at something and are certain you won’t succeed, go ahead and try anyway. If you fail, you’ll have something to be certain of and will have made the right assumption because you completed the task and weren’t just thinking it wouldn’t work.
Thus, put it into practice.
Total page of this book: 153
CONTENTS:
CHAPTER 1: Don’t Try
The Feedback Loop from Hell
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck
So Mark, What the Fuck Is the Point of This Book Anyway?
CHAPTER 2: Happiness Is a Problem
The Misadventures of Disappointment Panda
Happiness Comes from Solving Problems
Emotions Are Overrated
Choose Your Struggle
CHAPTER 3: You Are Not Special
Things Fall Apart
The Tyranny of Exceptionalism
B-b-b-but, If I’m Not Going to Be Special or Extraordinary, What’s the
Point?
CHAPTER 4: The Value of Suffering
The Self-Awareness Onion
Rock Star Problems
Shitty Values
Defining Good and Bad Values
CHAPTER 5: You Are Always Choosing
The Choice
The Responsibility/Fault Fallacy
Responding to Tragedy
Genetics and the Hand We’re Dealt
Victimhood Chic
There Is No “How”
CHAPTER 6: You’re Wrong About Everything (But So Am I)
Architects of Our Own Beliefs
Be Careful What You Believe
The Dangers of Pure Certainty
Manson’s Law of Avoidance
Kill Yourself
How to Be a Little Less Certain of Yourself
CHAPTER 7: Failure Is the Way Forward
The Failure/Success Paradox
Pain Is Part of the Process
The “Do Something” Principle
CHAPTER 8: The Importance of Saying No
Rejection Makes Your Life Better
Boundaries
How to Build Trust
Freedom Through Commitment
CHAPTER 9: . . . And Then You Die
Something Beyond Our Selves
The Sunny Side of Death
You may be wondering, “What’s the use of content?” Well, this is the most important part for me because, only after reading the contents, I decide whether to read the book or not. If the content is good, I’ll read the entire book. I also always search Google for content, which is why I’ve pasted it here in case it helps someone.
The five key takeaways from The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.
Types of suffering:
the first is when we truly experience suffering, and the second is when we attempt to escape from or get rid of the suffering. This is the worst kind of struggle because you are not actually finding a solution; instead, you are attempting to run away which leaves you with two sufferings that will never be solved. Instead, try finding solutions to your problems.
Evil people:
Have you heard about evil people? I’m sure you have, but I’m going to introduce you to a new kind of evil: the person who blames others for their own actions.
Omg, you have seen them or maybe you are one of them?
Let’s face it, an evil person is someone who believes it’s okay to make mistakes and play the victim. They have their own emotional pasts and as a result, they believe it’s normal to play with people’s emotions and blame others for their own mistakes. In this generation, this is normal.
For example, a guy may have had a girlfriend who cheated on him, and he is now playing with other girls, believing he has a right because he has experienced hard times. and accusing his girlfriend of being the reason behind his current cheating on other women.
A happy life:
It is simply a waste of time to hate everything and to judge every aspect of other people’s lives; to be happy, you should only hate what is true and relevant.
Selfish people:
Trying to be positive all the time is unhealthy and selfish since nobody can be happy all the time. The only way to be happy all the time is to avoid rejection and failure, and not try to learn new skills because doing so will negatively affect you. Prioritizing positivity is equal to selfishness.
Make yourself comfortable with uncomfortable feelings sometimes; that’s how you grow.
Accept problems:
Look, life is full of problems, and trying to run away from them is just going to make things more difficult. Instead of running away from problems, you should embrace them, learn from them, and accept that they will always be a part of your life. Eventually, you will manage to find solutions, but that will only happen if you try to solve them. with time you will become comfortable with problems.
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Thank you!
